“A Book About Stuff” is a mix of stories, reflections, and lessons from life — moments of laughter, growth, and the wisdom that comes from simply living. It shares my personal experiences and the lessons learned through life’s ups and downs as a single mother raising children who are now finding their own way in the world.

I never ever want you to feel like you can’t take up space, I never want you to feel like you are taking up too much space, or any space at all, TAKE UP ALL THE SPACE ! I never want you to shirk yourself because other people think you are too much, be too much because anyone who feels like this about you AREN’T YOUR PEOPLE ! I never want you to dim your light because people are offended at how brightly you shine, SHINE SO BRIGHT YOU HURT THEIR EYES ! I never want you to feel like you are not enough I never want people to make you feel like you are not enough, YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH ! You are more than fucking enough, if anyone makes you feel like you aren’t enough, well middle finger to them, they don’t deserve you. No seriously THEY DO NOT DESERVE YOU ! They don’t deserve your love, kindness or support. If you feel like you don’t belong at the table, or you don’t get invite to the table BUILD YOUR OWN TABLE !

I think you have enough evidence by now to know that no matter what happens, you will bounce back !

Chapters: 

• Start saying yes
• I don’t have a career
• I have never felt enough
• People will judge you
• Private life = Peaceful life
• Learn to be  OK on your own 
• Living with chronic pain
• I just don’t give a fuck anymore 
• Bone broth is the new coffee
• I have been a toxic friend
• Stop what is triggering you 
• I am scared to lose my independence 
• Fuck New Year New Me 
• What a mind fuck
• Dating just isn’t for me 
• I am in my pink era 
• Capsule wardrobe z
• I am being the mum I always wanted to be
• We raise our children to fly the nest 
• Space to heal 
• What if it turned out better than expected 
• Fall in love with yourself 
• Take up space 

And  more … along with journal entries and some of my favourite quotes.  

4 PRIZES TO BE WON 🎉🍾🥳

Raffle for @ovariancancerfoundationnz to help raise much needed funds as part of FROCKTOBER 👗

Prize 1: 
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🌸 1 x Stash Bag from @lollylab.nz 
🌸 1 x Pair of earrings from @bluetangonz 
🌸 1 x Pair of earrings from @lunarkiwicollection  
🌸 1 x Candle from @emandmecandles 
🌸 1 x Face serum from @cocobayskincare_nz 
🌸 1 x $50 Voucher  from @coffeeculturenz 
🌸 1 x Pair of earrings & ring from @naia_collectionsnz 
🌸 1 x print from @philina_den_dulk_artist  
🌸 1 x Pair of earrings from @kereru_creations  
🌸 1 x Bath salts from @ms_tania_mcmillan 
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✨ 1 x Candle from @emandmecandles 
✨ 1 x Pair of earrings from @kereru_creations 
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✨ 1 x Pair of earrings from @bluetangonz 
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Raffle Prize 3: 
💓 1 x Only Good Body Wash from @dermaoilnz 
💓 1 x Stash Bag from @lollylab.nz 
💓 1 x Bath salts from @ms_tania_mcmillan 
💓 1 x Pair of squaties from @squaties_official 
💓 2 x Pairs of earrings from @bluetangonz 
💓 1 x Pair of earrings from @naia_collectionsnz 
💓 1 x Pair of earrings from @lunarkiwicollection 
💓 1 x Pair of earrings from @kereru_creations 
Fuck cancer print 
💓  Jollies & cleanies from @girlsgetoff 
💓 1 x Caramel latte

Prize 4: 
🥂 A collection of goodies from @facestuff.co 
🥂 2 x Pairs of earrings from @bluetangonz 
🥂 1 x Pair of earrings from @kereru_creations 
🥂 1 x Print from @philina_den_dulk_artist 
🥂 Cleanies from @girlsgetoff  

You can purchase raffle tickets online on my website: 
www.mstaniamcmillan.net 

Raffle drawn 5th November 2025 👗💓 
Open to New Zealand 🇳🇿 only due to postage costs so all winners must have a NZ postal address 📫

“The peace I have now is worth everything I had lost” 

And here it is book number 3 BE YOUR OWN HERO, this book was easy to write, I  wanted to have a book that was helpful to live from a place of gratitude, there is space for you to write daily as you read what you are grateful for, there is also space for you to write your own emotions, feelings and thoughts. 

I have included my favorite quotes  etc that I have enjoyed and have helped me. 

I hope this book helps others know they are not alone and it's OK not to be OK all the time. Everyone goes through dark times, and we need to normalize talking about them. 

Chapters: 

• Declaration to myself
• You can hit rock bottom more than once
• Journaling
• Gratitude
• Motivation
• Our bodies change
• Anxiety
• Less is the new cool
• Releasing
• Ceremonial cacao
• Breathe Work
• Take time for you
• Fill your own cup
• Be in the moment
• Detox your socials
• Forgiveness
• Forgive yourself
• Life isn’t meant to be like this
• Commination
• Marley Moo
• Balance
• Inner child
• Sitting in solitude’
• Be your own best friend
• You can re-write your story
• Know your fucking worth

Paperback - 280 pages